"God, Do You See Me? Because I Can't See You"

“Mommy, can you see me? Because I can’t see you,” my three-year old self asked my mother.

“Oh, what a pretty girl, yeah,” she laughed.

My family and I watched some of our old family movies over Christmas. It was so special! We took all our old VHS movies home for the kids to watch and set up the VHS in their room with a tv intended only for retro fun (they had no idea what a VHS was. “What?! It’s STILL not done rewinding?!”).

This video my parents took was stuck in my head.

“Mama, can you see me? Because I can’t see you.”

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Fresh Feeling- Get Your Life Back

Parenting is difficult. There are no bones about it. 

With each child, I have three most of the time, four on occasion, they require something different. One tries my patience with his sass, the other tries it with his constant bouncing off the furniture, the other, well, she’s beautiful but she’s one year old and thinks her crib is a jail cell and has boycotted it’s existence. 

Maybe I should paint it pink?

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Why The Comparison Game is No Biggie

I’m mostly fine.

In general, I am okay.

I’m a fairly positive sort of person so I don’t have trouble on a daily basis with discouragement.

…but every once in awhile, I see something or hear something and it makes me sad!

I saw a post on Instagram awhile ago and it was by a young vlogger. I want to highlight some things… 

“The past year of her life has been so joyful!”

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Fresh Face: Best Face Forward! A Five Minute Refresher

When I get really depressed or upset about something, certain things that are important to me completely lose priority. One of those things is washing my face before I go to bed. It’s very rare that I succumb to my inner-laziness and rebel against my self-made rules. I hate waking up with yesterday’s makeup and goo still on my face. Even after I wash it the next morning, my makeup doesn’t go on as smooth and my eyelashes are still wrinkly or creased in wayward positions. It’s a safe bet that if my face is a mess, my heart is a mess too.

Why do I do that?

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Fresh Face: The Minimalist’s Guide to Beautiful Skin (feat. Aesthetician Dawn Ward of The Faith to Flourish!)

Beautiful, healthy skin. Skin so flawless it requires wearing little to no makeup…ahh! Every girl’s dream. 

How does one get perfect skin without spending all our time and money trying to get there? Plus, isn’t focusing on our beauty a little vain? Shouldn’t we instead be concentrating on cultivating our inner beauty? 

“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” 

-Proverbs 31:30 (NIV)

Let’s start with setting the record straight concerning vanity. According to Webster’s dictionary, vanity is defined as, “inflated pride in oneself or one’s appearance: conceit.” 

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Ten Alternatives to a Romantic Valentine’s Day

We all know that Valentine’s Day can spark some intense emotions. Some people don’t care at all while others feel deeply saddened and alone. We also know it’s possible to feel alone on Valentine’s Day while married!

In recovery, we are not always feeling romantic. Romantic lovey-dovey feelings can only flourish in a relationship that has trust.

If you are feeling super lovey-dovey but you don’t trust your loved one, might be time to check your feelings! That’s a good indication you’ve gone gaga over someone underserving of your love and attention. That’s not to say they couldn’t be one day, but right now they are not. 

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Fresh Face: What's In Your Bathroom?

Holey toledo.

[suspenseful music- duh, duh, duh, duh….]

Ahhhhh, the horror!

I knew my bathroom was going to be a mess but I had no idea that there was so much “stuff” in there, that placed on the floor, I would no longer be able to walk. My bathroom is not massive, but it is also not small! It should have been large enough to contain the essentials.

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Fresh Fashion: The End Results

A short post to show the fruit of our hard work! We would love to see YOURS!

Use our hashtag #freshminimalism so we can see what you did in your home, too!

I also did my husband’s and children’s closets.

Before cleaning out my closet, I felt like I never had anything to wear. I didn’t like the majority of my clothing and a lot of it was uncomfortable. I could hardly fit anything into my closet it was so cramped!

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Girl, Clean Out Your Mind

Wouldn’t it be great if cleaning out our mind was as easy as cleaning out our closet?

Negative thoughts? Toss ‘em!

Feelings of judgment or hate? See ya!

Resentment? You’re outta here!

While it might not be as easy as throwing a blouse into a donation box, we can decide whether we are going to wear that thought, keep it hanging in the closet for another year or get rid of it.

Ask yourself- what thoughts do I have that lead me to experience negative emotions?

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Fresh Fashion: Building a Capsule Wardrobe

I did capsule wardrobes for all my children… while I was supposed to be making one for myself. I did tell you not to do that :) I’m working on my own and started my husband’s capsule as well.

The children’s wardrobes were much easier because theirs needed to only last for a season (not the next twenty years!) but I tried to make sure I had a lot of pieces that would easily transition into the spring and summer and hopefully, will still fit next fall. For my older son, I tried to buy items I thought would last long enough for my younger son to wear them after. That may mean I spent a bit more on some things but that cost can be divided between two children. 

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Fresh Fashion: How to Create Your Everyday Uniform

Can you think of at least five, awesome outfits you like wearing and feel good in, down to the accessories, right now?

Today is all about “creating your uniform”. 

As we get older, our personal style evolves and changes. What worked for us before doesn’t keep working. Like the short shorts we might have worn in high school or the club clothing from college. You may not still have these items in your closet, I don’t, but it can leave us in a style wonderland, not sure where to turn to “go home”. 

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Fresh Fashion: Stop Stress Shopping! Create a Wardrobe Inventory

If you’re on this journey with me to “cut out the clutter” from your closet and make room in your brain for living life- you should be down to less clothing by now.

So today, I want to talk about,

“Does this item of clothing make sense for my life?”. 

Before blogging, I was a hairstylist. I did hair for almost ten years, but left after God slammed the door in my face! Yup. He told me to quit and I didn’t. You can read the whole story in my upcoming book, “No One Brings You a Casserole When Your Husband Goes to Rehab”

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