Does Your Spouse Have a Porn Addiction or Just a Bad Habit? The Difference Matters!

Does Your Spouse Have a Porn Addiction or Just a Bad Habit? The Difference Matters!

Before anyone gets upset with me for being insensitive, let me preempt this post by saying I know how much it hurts to have your spouse “cheat on you” with porn. It’s beyond awful. It makes us feel like dirt. We can’t stop thinking about it. We unwillingly compare ourselves to their internet history, “Large chest and big butt?! But I have a TINY chest and NO derriere… He must not like me” or, if you’re a man it may go more like, “I don’t have abs! Obviously, she thinks I’m fat too. No wonder she’s looking at porn. She’s probably having an affair too”.

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My Loved One Has an Addiction, What Can I Do?

My Loved One Has an Addiction, What Can I Do?

This is a question I hear often but has a very complicated answer. While the definition of addiction is the same across the board and the behaviours for each type of addiction come out, in the same manner, the actual addiction itself does need to be treated differently. So I’m going to say, it depends on what your loved one is addicted to. 

I’m going to split this into the “big four” addictions. Some of these, I have up-close and personal experience with while others I do not, so if you’re the spouse of said addiction and you’re like, “Ummm, Leah, that’s whack advice!” I'm so sorry, that’s totally okay by me.

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No Need to be a Scaredy Cat! Faith Guide for Crisis Situations

No Need to be a Scaredy Cat! Faith Guide for Crisis Situations

I know I’m, “Preaching to the choir” when I say this but there’s nothing like addiction to bring a spirit of fear into your life. Whatever anxieties or insecurities may have been present before, that you were able to disguise, push through, convince yourself weren’t there, they all come back with addiction. They say addiction is a “family disease” and while I don’t believe in the disease aspect of it, I do believe it’s a family affair! 

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How to Faithfully Deal with Chronic Insecurity

How to Faithfully Deal with Chronic Insecurity

Whack! Strikes of pain shot through my butt as we slammed into yet another pothole. I moaned softly, strained my neck against the window and lifted my eyes to the flaking roof of the van. When would we get there? Or rather, the more pertinent question: when was I going to get there? Emotionally, physically… spiritually. I sighed and turned my head to watch the billows of dust surface in our erratic wake. 

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When We're Abandoned by Adam: A Story of Strength

When We're Abandoned by Adam: A Story of Strength

One of the things I admire most about women is our natural ability to nurture. When a friend is in need, we’re there to help. When someone is struggling we have an innate ability to encourage and build them up with our God-given intuition; Women are graceful, beautiful, loving creatures.

God lovingly created Eve to be Adam’s perfect helper. God presented Eve to Adam like a gift and in every way, she complimented his strengths and weaknesses. He was proud of what He had made for His son.

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Get the Fairytale Ending You Need to Succeed

Get the Fairytale Ending You Need to Succeed

Every young girl dreams her own fairytale. Though each story is different we do all want the same thing. It isn’t that we all dream of being saved by princes, that’s not the case at all. What we really dream of is being the confident heroine of our story, admired for our inner strength, beauty and wisdom. We want to love and be loved. 

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How to Support a Friend Whose Loved One is an Addict

How to Support a Friend Whose Loved One is an Addict

What's My Family Member's Life Like?

The best way to describe how it feels to have a loved one battling addiction is: isolating. 

It’s lonely. 

It’s hard to relate to other people because your life is chaotic and spinning around an unhealthy, unpredictable person. It’s hard to make commitments, like volunteering for church activities or children’s school trips, because you’re overwhelmed and never know what will happen from day to day. Going to work to deal with a whole other set of problems can be a relief if you get yourself motivated to go but some days, it’s too much to handle. 

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Five Ways to Support a Loved One with an Addiction Without Losing Yourself

Five Ways to Support a Loved One with an Addiction Without Losing Yourself

I grew up in a family with eight kids, all younger than myself, and although I never thought life would be perfect, I never dreamed that one of us would battle addiction. So when my little brother became addicted to opiates after the sudden death of one of our siblings, it was devastating to our family.

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When the Happy Girl Gets an Anxiety Disorder

When the Happy Girl Gets an Anxiety Disorder

I never thought I would get anxiety.

Growing up, I was one of those bubbly, almost-always happy little girls who found delight in chasing lightning bugs and drinking fresh lemonade on the back deck. I had fear like any child, especially when faced with being apart from my parents overnight, but I tended to live my life cheerful and smiling.

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Practical Ways to Pray for Peace When You Have Anxiety

Practical Ways to Pray for Peace When You Have Anxiety

For the month of August, we’re going to be talking about anxiety and how to combat it God’s way. I’ll be grouping anxiety disorders in with “non-disorder” anxiety for the purposes of this article, even though I realize they’re very different but because spiritually-speaking, the treatment is the same. 

To prepare for the month ahead, I want to start by laying down a very basic understanding of anxiety. 

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You Ain’t Gotta Make Your Mind Up (Right Now)

You Ain’t Gotta Make Your Mind Up (Right Now)

Don’t rush, no pressure.

Everyone who knows me well, knows I love Justin Bieber. I’m sorry if you just lost all respect for me but I'm Canadian so I’m going to claim ignorance. The Biebs has gotten wiser in his trials and there’s some real nuggets of wisdom in his songs (albeit grammatical errors but wisdom nonetheless). One of my favourites is, “You ain’t gotta make your mind up right now, don’t rush, no pressure”. 

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Are You Filled With Fear or Faith?

Are You Filled With Fear or Faith?

Get up, be baptized and wash your sins away. 

My husband, my oldest son and I were all baptized on the same day. We also publicly dedicated our one and a half year old to Jesus. It was beautiful. 

Why did I get baptized, you ask? Honestly, I've just never done it. This is going to sound really stupid but I didn't want to get wet in front of all those people. I have this hair, you see....

Let's just say, it was an act of obedience.  

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Experts Weigh in With Practical Advice on Forgiveness

Experts Weigh in With Practical Advice on Forgiveness

Forgiveness is one of those things I think we all have to struggle with at one point in our lives. No one is immune to being hurt so forgiveness becomes an important part of our human relationships. 

To get a better understanding on this often very difficult subject, I asked some of my favourite fellow bloggers, writers, speakers and Christian influencers: “What practical advice would you give to a women who’s really struggling with forgiveness?”

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Six Secrets to Win the Marathon of Life

Six Secrets to Win the Marathon of Life

Win a crown of glory!

It’s really easy to think about the life we’re in right now as being “the prize”. We work hard to make our lives here a good one: nice homes, nice cars, nice clothes, good friends, a job that fulfills a passion.

We have it all wrong. 

This life isn't our destination, it's our race.

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Signs of Emotional Abuse You Need to Watch For

Signs of Emotional Abuse You Need to Watch For

Why Are We Talking About Emotional Abuse?

Emotional abuse isn't something we can necessarily see. It would be obvious to know when someone is hurting us if they always left bruises but when it's our emotions or freedom attacked, it can be difficult to classify it as abuse.

It's a, "If no one sees it, it didn't happen" mentality. 

Not surprisingly, there's a lot of experts who believe emotional abuse is more damaging than physical abuse because it often happens every day [source]

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